Slow III

I’ve been advocating
Slow Caregiving.
I see this approach
as much an attitude
as it is a speed.
It’s a decision
to always keep the care receiver’s needs
in clear focus.
In an interview in The Washington Post yesterday,
travel expert Rick Steves described
the culture in Italian restaurants.
“Slow service,” he said, “is good service.”
How is that so?
It’s their way of showing
they respect you, they like you.
“Please feel free to stay all night”
is what they’re communicating.
Unlike most American restaurants,
where it’s frowned upon to linger too long,
the Italian attitude is,
“Take whatever time you wish.
It is, after all, your meal.”
Carl Honore makes this distinction
in his book In Praise of Slowness:
“Fast is busy, controlling, aggressive, hurried, analytical, stressed, superficial, impatient, active, quantity-over-quality. Slow is the opposite: calm, careful, receptive, still, intuitive, unhurried, patient, reflective, quality-over-quantity. It is about making real and meaningful connections—with people, culture, food, everything. The paradox is that Slow does not always mean slow.”

Slow Caregiving means bring receptive
to what’s ultimately right for the care receiver.
Maybe they’d like certain things
to happen more quickly.
Slow Caregiving says, “We’ll try that.”
Maybe they’d like time to interact,
to talk, to reminisce, to linger.
Slow Caregiving says, “Let’s tarry here.”
Maybe there’s an emergency.
Slow Caregiving says, “Let’s hustle now!
Time is of the essence!”
Then a Slow Caregiver rushes ahead
with, as much as possible,
a Slow frame of mind—
intuitively, assuredly, calmly,
and with great caring.

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2 Responses to “Slow III”

  1. Linda Says:

    I agree with your premise about slow caregiving. I believe that any decisions must be made in the best interest of the care receiver. I found that in a family caregiving situation that too many times the decisions were not well thought out because the goal for those of us care for my aunt were thinking about how treatments might keep her with us instead of what would be best for her.

  2. Susan Says:

    I’m all for the Slow approach. God blessed me with having Lyme disease from childhood so I’m about as slow as they come, caregiving was a natural choice as I am as slow as my clients! Praise God for slowness! -Susan

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