This is Brendan Halpin:
Public school teacher.
Young married man.
Father to a 4-year-old.
Caregiver to his wife
who is ill with cancer.
He tells their unfolding story
in his book It Takes a Worried Man,
which he composed like a personal journal.
At one point he confesses that he feels resentful.
He needs to take care of his wife,
because she is so ill.
He needs to take care of their daughter,
because she is so young.
All that, he admits, makes perfect sense,
and is something he ought to do,
something he wants to do.
Still, he writes, “Who’s taking care of me?
Who cares that I got less
than five hours sleep
and I have to go work a full day?
Who gives me a hug
when I am scared in the middle of the night?”

Brendan’s questions are valid and make real sense.
Whether we realize it or not,
questions like these are common
among family caregivers today.
“When I’ve done all the caring I can do,
who will in turn give care to me?”
“When my caregiving has exhausted me,
who will at least notice my exhaustion,
if not help in some way?”
“When I myself am hurting,
who will be there to soothe,
to listen, to encourage?”
Honest questions all.
Human, natural questions.
Questions that no committed caregiver
should feel ashamed for asking.
For we all have our limits,
and those limits vary.
We all have our needs,
and those needs are individualized.
We all will do well to have support in some form,
wherever that support comes from.
Our questions may not have easy answers,
or ready answers, or even sure answers,
but that should not stop us
from giving them voice.
For that is the only way
our voices can blend with other voices,
allowing us to know we are not alone,
which is at least a beginning.

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